To all my people who have spent years in a system where to-do lists, high non-stop achievement and working late nights is rewarded, this is for you - for us!
If I look back at my life, I was also someone who followed structure, timelines, deadlines and the joy of continuous systemic success.
i.e. good grades, best university, top achiever, big companies, promotions and so on.
Somewhere along the way, I replaced the high heels with flip flops, I leaned back in my chair and put my legs up on the desk.
Basically, I let loose of the fancy clothes and started to find joys outside the system of doing and non-stop success.
Which picture is better? Which picture is the right one?
Neither I would say. We need the flip flops and we need the high heels.
Without structure, hard work and some kind of seriousness, we would stand still. Yet, without fluidity and spontaneity we would never be open to change and creativity.
We all possess both the masculine and feminine energy within us.
We just use each in different intensity.
Which one do you think you use more in your life? at work?
What does it mean to have masculine energy at work?
Masculine energy at work is all about following the system.
Build a massive plan, create a to do list and follow it day by day to achieve exactly THAT.
Masculine energy is the sun. It is constant, high energy. It keeps going, non-stop. It is non-changing (like the sun), every day is the same HIGH ENERGY, always on the go, up towards success and growth. It is a source of fuel and light.
What does it mean to have feminine energy at work?
Feminine energy on the contrary is changing and fluid. It is the moon, never constant, every day is a new phase.
Feminine energy is spontaneous, creative and moves with the flow.
When you invite feminine energy into your life, you wake up with an open mind, sense your energy, feel what is right and trust your intuition to move with the flow.
You drop the to do list and move with what feels right instead.
Feminine energy is nurturing, calming and relaxing. It allows you to unwind, recover, refuel and go within.
What is wrong with the current system? (in my humble opinion)
Our current system supports and rewards high-achievers and hard-workers - only.
It rewards people who are aggressive, push and break down walls and speak up in every meeting. It is a system that wants you to bring out your masculine energy no matter what. It is a system that views feminine energy as a weakness and as less productive.
What is wrong with that? Well, a few things:
- Without inviting feminine energy, we face burnout and increased levels of stress
- Expect to get exactly the result you aim for (which is good, but limits creativity and room for expansion)
- Puts people in a box and a system (This is what is right only)
- Does not give space for free-thinking, fluidity and flow
- Does not empower people to trust in their own intuition
Why we need to invite more feminine energy at work
If each and every one of us invited more feminine energy at work, here's how things would look like instead:
- Higher level of creativity and spontaneous thinkers
- Doing less while being more productive
- Invite more relaxation, calmness and balance in one's day
- Space for self-reflection, growth and pausing
- A more nurturing and loving space at work
So how can you balance both?
Here are some ideas for you:
- In every project, ask yourself: How can I do things differently? Can I do less by being more productive?
- Do what is necessary, but do not stick to day to day to do lists. Invite more spontaneity in your day at work
- Book a few hours every week for creative thinking and looking at the big picture
- Rewards yourself and others for actually taking rest days, acknowledging that rest (Feminine) is as important as doing (Masculine)
- Add more feminine activities to your life (yoga, massage, dance, free movement, art, creativity...anything else you could think of?)
- Invite a nurturing environment at work where you accept new ideas and new ways of thinking (even if they are opposing to yours)
- Try something completely new, even if it does not contribute to a big promotion
- Accept that just "Being" in the moment is as important as always "Doing"
So, will you invite more feminine energy into your life?
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